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You meant to stop at the post office on the way to work, and suddenly you're pulling into the office parking lot wondering how you got there. That's autopilot. After ten, fifteen, twenty years together, it's also how a lot of couples end up running their relationship.

In this solo episode, I'm skipping the three-step system and getting honest about what a healthy relationship takes in today's world. These are the three areas I keep coming back to with the couples I work with, and yes, I'm holding my hand up here too, because I'm working on them in my own marriage.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why long-term couples slide into autopilot, and how being intentional (and owning it when you slip) interrupts the patterns you're tired of repeating
• How split attention sabotages your time together, plus simple ways to be present, like a phone basket by the door or a standing Wednesday night that belongs to just the two of you
• Why healthy couples lean into hard conversations instead of avoiding them, and the listening sequence that wraps things up in 20 to 30 minutes instead of three or four hours

If one of you keeps feeling like nothing you do is ever enough, there's a good chance your partner isn't asking you to do more. They're asking you to be here, to see them, listen, and talk with them.

Autopilot is normal after years together, right? Staying there is optional.

Press play, then send this one to your partner and to the couple in your life who needs it. It's the kind of episode you'll want to talk about together.

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