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Between the Off Campus series, the My Fault trilogy, and whatever's currently sitting on your nightstand, something has shifted... and it's not just 20-somethings hooked on romantasy. Katie's hearing the same three questions from smart, successful women in their 40s and 50s constantly: 

Is this helping my relationship or quietly hurting it? 

Is it weird that I'm this into a couple half my age? 

And why do I feel worse about my marriage after I finish a chapter, not better?

In this episode, Katie pulls in research from Esther Perel and John Gottman to answer all three... no shame, no judgment, just the bigger picture. You'll learn why intimacy and desire actually run on different fuel, why the "young couple" thing isn't about age at all, and what that vague post-chapter dissatisfaction is really trying to tell you (hint: it's not a red flag, it's a request in disguise). Katie also shares three concrete tips for turning your reading habit into a bid for connection instead of a secret, including one especially good one for date night.

This isn't just a "her" topic either. Men have the exact same cravings; they just tend to stay quieter about it.

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